Spiritual Discipline Series: Praying
I discovered that when I spent time wishing that a certain weakness in my husband was another way, or when I replayed a scenario, or made comparisons, what I was really doing was talking to myself instead of God….sadly, I realized that I was in essence praying to myself. Then, forgetting that I have no power, I would speak words of correction and instruction, which seemed to always come out as criticism. Look y’all, I was treating myself as if I were God, as if I were the one who could fix my husband. This realization caused me to seriously look at what was going on in my thoughts. It was time to do away with pointless mind games, and really go to spiritual battle for my husband.
We are human, but we don’t wage war as humans do. We use God’s mighty weapons, not worldly weapons, to knock down the strongholds of human reasoning and to destroy false arguments. We destroy every proud obstacle that keeps people (OR OUR SPOUSE, my insert) from knowing God. We capture their rebellious thoughts and teach them to obey Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:3-5 NLV
This post is perfect for those of you who are single too. Go to battle now for your future.
The Heart Always Speaks
The best gift you can give your spouse is unconditional acceptance and support. The worldly culture that surrounds us tries to make us think that perfection is attainable, that imperfection is disgusting. We create lists in our thoughts of ways things could be better. We compare. We wish.
Even church culture can offer opportunities to make comparisons. Our spouse just doesn’t seem to measure up to what is being said from the pulpit, or to the family on the neighboring pew. What if your spouse is lacking in religious fervor? What if spiritual initiative mostly comes from you?
The moment one of your thoughts come out of your mouth…the instant a suggestion passes your lips it will inflict pain, it will tear down. No matter how it is framed, it will always come out as criticism.
Jesus talks about this very problem. It’s the heart y’all. After a wish has lived so long in our minds, it settles into our hearts. Once it is in our hearts the mouth can’t help but speak. It’s up to us to re-frame what is in the heart.
But the words you speak come from the heart—that’s what defiles you. Matthew 15:18 NLT
Weakness is Opportunity
I love this quote from the book The Love Dare by Steven and Alex Kendrick
“Have you ever wondered why God gives you overwhelming insight into your spouse’s hidden faults? Do you really think it’s for endless nagging? No, its for effective kneeling. No one knows better how to pray for your mate than you.”
So do inventory of your spouse’s weaknesses. Some are trivial and in love will need to be overlooked. But some are of a spiritual nature and need to be brought before the Father.
Wage Spiritual Battle
In your mind, change the way you see the weakness. If the issue is, for example, the way he spends his time, or a problem with negativity, restructure your mind to see the weakness for what it really is, an attack from the enemy.
My suggestion is to pick two to three simple prayers, with spiritual goals for your mate. Rework the negative with a positive spin. For example, a problem with a short temper might be changed to a prayer for increased fruit of the spirit. Capture every rebellious thought about your spouse and focus on the battle.
For those who love free stuff, I have created a printable prayer sheet with instructions for use in carrying out this exercise. You can easily make your own, but this is done for you with hearts and all. Just sign up to receive my posts in your email one or two times a week. Click on the graphic below and I will send the PDF file to you in a welcome letter.
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